The thing about being more positive is it’s easy for me to say but it’s not so easy to believe. Or so you would think… This post is all about how to live a happier and more positive lifestyle. I go into detail about each step, and give ideas on how to occupy your mind – maybe in moments of stress or anxiety. It is always good to have a list of things that work for you and help you to stay in control. Having a new mindset has totally changed my life and I want to help all of you to have a new mindset too. It starts with realising what you do and don’t want out of life. Do you want that new handbag? Do you want a new job? Do you not want treated a certain way anymore?
Confidence – Fake it till you make it.
You will of heard of the phrase “Fake it till you make it”, basically meaning that if you pretend (or fake confidence, for example), you will eventually make it (become confident naturally). This step is really easy, keep telling yourself you’re confident and pretend you are until one day you are no longer pretending. You are confident!! How brilliant does that sounds? But I bet you will be saying “nah it can’t be that easy.” Well I’m here to tell you it is. I spent years being depressed and now that I am out of it I can see things from both points of view, two extremes yes but it gives you a dramatic comparison. The one thing I will say about depressed Pam is that I would always act confident even if on the inside I felt like I couldn’t move from fear. I would still keep going and remain strong. So for all the time I faked it, I can now say I made it. I am now happy and content and feeling the most confident I have felt in years. You are probably going to be somewhere in the middle where as I am literally two extremes – depressed and revitalised.
Enjoy life and be happy
You only get one life so why would you want to be miserable? Easy answer is you don’t. You should want to live your life to the fullest. Whether that is raising your kids to be the best adults possible or travelling the world…etc. Live your life to the max. Live your life for you and nobody else, which is the true way to be happy but that opinion is for another post. So in reality you want to trick your mind in a sense, make it believe you are happy, get those good chemicals pumping through your body. If you tell yourself you are happy and do some activities that make you feel good and feel happy then you are going to be happy. (I will list some things you can do further down in this post) Surround yourself with positive people, tell negative people to go “bye-bye”. I say that but give people time to get to know the new positive you because as you become more and more positive you will notice that your positivity will rub off on other people, making them more positive. Positivity is infectious. Human beings are creatures of habit so when we are negative for an extended period of time or are down on ourselves over the years we automatically go to that behaviour as it is our recognised behaviour, so when we decide to be more positive and our natural reaction is a negative one we fight the positivity. it takes 66 days to change a habit so in the end we can change and become more positive people with some patience and understanding.
Manage expectations and goals
I recently bought a goals diary. I am in love with it I write everything I do each day in it and all my goals each day in it as well. So for example the fact I am writing this post is in the diary, my exercises are in it, any appointments I have are also in it. It also has a reflection bit for the end of each week and you reward yourself for achieving your goals for each day. So I’ll reward myself with some chocolate or a glass of wine or something. It feels great to have goals and right now nothing feels out of the realm of possibility, but in saying that I am being level headed, and not getting ahead of myself by biting off more than I can chew. The worst thing you can do when trying to get your head around changes and a new positive mindset is to jump too far ahead and do too much at the one time and fail spectacularly. The best thing you can do is get one big goal so say lose one stone. Then you think “how do I achieve this goal?” Once you have figured out the steps you need to take in order to lose that stone, write them down and maybe think about steps towards those actual steps make the steps as small as you need them. For me for example with weight loss, I’m not even putting a digit on anything yet I just want to get moving more and I am hoping that, that helps me to lose weight. Remember your new fake it till you make it attitude? Let it come into action just now!!
Here some more ideas to help keep you positive, if you want me to go into anymore in detail please contact me on social media and I will try talk to you one to one or if there’s a few of you then please comment what you would like to discuss and I will do another post like this one.
- Write a list of things you are grateful for.
- Listen to an upbeat playlist.
- Create a photo collage of your favourite moments.
- Cut negative people out your life.
- Laugh every day!!!
- Find silver linings.
- Call someone who makes you feel good about yourself.
- Fist bumps someone who looks like they need it.
- Keep a journal.
- Listen to motivational podcasts.
- Avoid activities that make you feel dread or negativity (it might sound obvious but humans are a glutton for punishment).
- Make someone else feel good.
- Write a letter to someone who inspires you.
- Exercise to feel physically happy.
There are some great ideas to keep you remaining positive all day long for the whole of the festive period. Or at least until my next post is out, Ha ha! Remember it takes time to change your ways and to start a whole new outlook on life. If at first you don’t succeed then try, try, try again. I read a wise quote once that said learn to rest, not quit! How true is that? So take a rest. Have a lie down but always and I mean ALWAYS get back up again and keep trying!! You can do it!!